I'm not going to bother to dwell on if having sex on the first date is OK. Of course
it is. I'm pretty sure that Sex and the City cleared
that up back in 1998, when Carrie wore a naked dress on her first date with Mr.
Big, vowed not to sleep with him right away, did it anyway, and wound up
marrying that emotionally unavailable trainwreck of a man anyway. (Tangent:
Even if you have a Town Car and a chauffeur, that does not give you license to
treat people without respect. Dating columnists are real people with feelings,
too, OK?)
It's perfectly fine to sleep with somebody on the first date,
and it's also perfectly fine to sleep with somebody after a million dates. You
do you. Or you do them. Whatever.
I spoke to six women about all the reasons they choose to hook
up when they do. They all endorsed getting busy on the first date if that's
something you're interested in — and a surprising number (five out of six!)
said they've seriously dated people they hooked up with right away. But they
also presented thoughtful reasons for waiting. The whole thing was pretty
thought-provoking.
This woman had sex on a first date and it led to a long-term
relationship.
— Taylor, 24
This woman
also had sex on a first date and it led to a long-term relationship — but she
regrets it.
— Lila, 24
This woman had sex on the first date and it worked out.
This woman had sex on the
first date and it worked out.
— Kylie, 24
This woman would
sometimes do everything but sex on a first date, but wouldn't feel safe that
way anymore.
— Emily, 25
This woman tried it once and isn't a fan.
— Jane, 23
This woman only does it if there's a super strong connection.
